[pull_quote_center]So you want to be happy? Well, there’s only one thing standing in your way. You. Happiness is a choice that only happy people make. Here are the 7 delusions happy people don’t subscribe to.[/pull_quote_center]
1 – Life is fair
Happy people understand that sometimes life doesn’t go their way; life isn’t fair. What they do know, is that you can only do your best, forgive yourself for what doesn’t work, and let go when you need to.
2 – I’m in control of things
As hard as you work, and as much as you try to plan it all out, you’re just not in control. You cannot control the actions or thoughts of others. In order to reach happiness, happy people accept this inevitable truth and learn to be proactive rather than reactive to life’s surprises and mishaps.
3 – People are obligated to love me a specific way
If your happiness is dependent on how other people feel about you, you will never be happy. You can’t please everyone and you certainly can’t force anyone to love you in a specific way. Happy people accept the way their loved ones feel and work at showing back their affection.
4 – I can’t
You might probably believe you are incapable. But if you let that belief keeps you from happiness, then ultimately you give truth to a self-imposed fallacy. Happy people believe that the only way to improve and succeed at anything is to try and try again, despite the hardships and failures. They simply do not let their doubts keep them from happiness.
5 – I have something to prove
Unhappy people seek happiness through approval. Unfortunately, that approval is impossible to achieve because it is caused by an inner lack, which keeps them constantly striving. Happiness can only be achieved through self-acceptance. Yours is the only approval you need.
6 – I’d be happier, if only I were [fill in the blank]
You might probably be considering, “I would be happier, if only I were skinnier, prettier, smarter or richer”. However, happy people know the secret to happiness is accepting themselves–flaws and all. It is okay to work on improving yourself. We’re always in a state of learning. But it’s not okay to berate yourself for your flaws. Focus on your strengths.
7 – I’m too old
You are never too old to choose happiness. Happy people keep choosing happiness every day, whether they felt it early on or discovered the secret later in life. Life is unpredictable. The only sure thing is we’re all getting older one day at a time, so don’t let that keep you from happiness.