[quote_box_center]It is said that one of the best times in figuring out who we are and what we really want out of our life is right after a break-up. Yes, you hear me![/quote_box_center]
Any time something so earth shattering happens, it breaks our hearts, but it also leaves the doorway of our souls open to new emotions and new mindsets that can literally shake, rattle and roll us right up to the next level.
Leaving the comfortable shell of a long-term relationship is one of the scariest things a person can do, but think about it: what would happen to the butterfly if she refused to exit her cocoon? She would never grow, never change, never acquire her wings. If you outgrew a dress, no matter how fabulous it once fit, you wouldn’t keep wearing it, would you? Then why are we so willing to stay stuck in a relationship once it has become clear that the other person is not our perfect fit?
More often than not, a break up leads to new beginnings and it opens up new doors that you’d never even considered before, so don’t feel down in the dumps cheer up instead and read our eight tips on how to deal with a break up and ways that you can view it in a positive light.
1. Going through a break up makes you a stronger person
Dealing with an emotional breakup is hard, but from that harshness comes a stronger you. We have learnt to deal with many, many things in life: disappointments, bereavements and sometimes even betrayal, but each one of these experiences that we go through teaches us new lessons and we become a better person from it.
2. Redirect Your Frustration
A good way to make some positive use out of your anger and frustration with your ex is to channel that aggression into something more productive. Work out, set new goals, take up running, take up a new language, a new sport, or get your endorphins pumping through cardio exercises, just channel all that energy into something useful.
3. Allow yourself some grieving time
Allow yourself some grieving time. Of course, we understand, like the writer, John Green, said, “Pain demands to be felt.” Although we have this natural impulse of suppressing unpleasant feelings, avoiding them will prevent us from getting past them. So, don’t beat yourself up. Shed a tear if you need to, talk it out or write it down and gain the clarity you need to see why you will be better off without your former partner.
4. A breakup gives you back your freedom!
It may not be that you wanted, but a breakup frees you to be able to do the things in life that you want to do. You can now make decisions on where you want to go in your life, without having to consider another person’s point of view, so start planning now!
5. Love yourself and put yourself first
Instead of thinking about the “could haves” and “should haves”, use the time you have to treat yourself to a few pleasurable things and enjoy yourself. Eat nourishing whole foods that are high in fiber, protein and nutrients to boost your mood and energy. A balanced diet with plenty of fresh fruits, greens and stress busting super foods can help counteract the psychological stress of the breakup.
6. Give Back
Performing acts of kindness towards others has been shown to improve well-being and help relieve depression. Giving back can be a powerful way to “rechannel the love that was previously funneled into the relationship. Do something where you are helping others, because that gives you a sense of empowerment and it’s also opening your heart.
7. It’s not the end, it’s the beginning
Closing the page on one chapter is not the end of the book. Take a positive view of this episode in your life, when you can, and remember that this chapter may have been finished, but that means that there is a while new and exciting one waiting for you over the next page!
What are you best break-up tips? Let us know in the comments below!