[pull_quote_left]A comment from someone can ruin your day if you allow to be so.[/pull_quote_left] The comment may be made thoughtlessly or maliciously. Either way, it isn’t worth being upset over. There are many valid reasons not to be affected by people’s comments. The following are some great reasons not to be affected by people’s comments.
1 – They Could Be Having a Bad Day
Their comment could be a reaction to what they have dealt with that day. Maybe their fuse is a little shorter than normal. Maybe they missed their morning coffee and are really feeling the effects of that. Realizing that their comment could be the product of their bad day is a very healthy decision for you.
2 – It is Really Not about You
What others say is a reflection of what is going on with their personal thoughts and feelings. Everyone’s thoughts and feelings are influenced by a variety of factors such as their upbringing, their life experiences and their own unique personality. It has to do with their perception of you based on those factors, not the reality that you know is true. It is not worth letting their comment ruin your day.
3 – Shift the Message
A good thing to do is to practice being open-minded instead of defensive about the comments of others. You know yourself better than anyone else. Shift through the comment that was made and take the nuggets of truth from it to learn from. Disregard the rest of it.
4 – Realize There are Rude People in This World
One really good reason not to be affected by people’s comments is that they may not come from a good source. Let’s face it. There are some very rude and crazy people in our world. Their comment may have absolutely no value because of who they are. Basically, you need to consider the source.
5 – They Are Only One Person
You know, there are over 7 billion people on earth. The person that made a comment to you is only one person. That is only one of 7 billion opinions on earth. It is not worth your day being ruined or having your feelings hurt.
6 – It Isn’t Worth Having a Bad Day
Good days can take some effort. You are making the effort to be positive. Don’t let someone else stomp on that effort. Laugh it off. Pretend you didn’t hear it. Do whatever you need to do in order to protect your good day.
There are many reasons not to be affected by people’s comments. What do you do to keep this from happening to you? Please share your ways of dealing in this situation.