It might seem as though everything is fair is love and war but dating a friend’s ex can lead to a pretty messy situation. It is almost certainly best avoided if you want to keep your friend. Here are some sound reasons never to date a friend’s ex …
1 – Consider Her Feelings
There are some women who won’t mind, especially if they did not date the guy for very long. It is more likely though that she would feel very uncomfortable about it. Do you really want to risk a friendship for something that may not last?
2 – Friendship First
Your loyalty should be to your friend first and foremost. Remember that you were friends with her before you ever met this guy. How would you feel if she dated your ex? You probably would not like it, so give her the same courtesy and consideration that you would expect.
3 – Comparisons
There is the chance that he might compare you to her. You will want to think that he is happier with you than he was with her, but there is the risk that he might say something quite different when you fight. Plus, you will be forever wondering if he is thinking about her when he is with you.
4 – Suspicion
Dating your friend’s ex can lead to other problems. She may start to wonder if you always fancied him – or if you were just waiting for them to split all the time she was dating him. Once that kind of suspicion is set up, it will create a lack of trust and drive a wedge between you.
5 – Getting the Go Ahead
Of course, you could ask your friend if she is ok with the idea of you seeing her ex. Because then you have got her blessing, right? But even if she says she is fine with it, the reality may turn out to be completely different. Perhaps she felt obliged to say yes, or thought that she is not going to feel jealous.
6 – Reasons Why They Broke up
Your friend broke up with her boyfriend for a reason. You might think that those reasons won’t repeat themselves in your relationship. You may reason that he cheated on her because he was unhappy, and that he will never do the same thing to you. You can’t be sure that he is right for you any more than he wasn’t right for your friend.
There are plenty of men you could date, so why complicate your life by dating a friend’s ex? You risk losing your friendship for the sake of a guy that you probably won’t date for long. A good friend should be cherished. Have you been in this kind of situation before?